LIFE STYLE

1. A SPOUSE WHO WANTS T00 MUCH S£X

Some are married to a spouse (often times the husband) who wants s£x regularly. This can easily make one féél uséd.

Usually in such situations, the em0tional connection is also wéak.

Address this by learning to do other things as a c0uple that don’t inv0llve s£x.

2. A SP0USE WHO IS NOT INTÉRESTED IN S£X

Some are married to a spouse (often times the wifé) who shows no interést in s£x.

Perhaps because of emotional strain, past w0unds, h0rmones, négative view towards sp0use or as a result of c0nflict.

Address this by talking things out, 0pen up, change c0ntraceptives.

Realize that l0ve màking is imp0rtant in marriage.

3. A SP0USE WHO DOES NOT TAKE CÀRE OF PERS0NAL HYGlENE

It is a struggle to kíss, líck, t0uch, rub or even make l0ve to someone who d0esn’t brush their tééth, sh0wer, wears the same undérweàr for days or doesn’t care ab0ut présentati0n.

If you have such a sp0use, encourage each other to sh0wer together, buy him/her underwéàr and recommend that, they be worn to excíte you, form a c0uple’s routine.

If you are the culprit, remember that hygiene inspires intímàcy.

4. LÚST

Lúst will make you struggle to be fàithful. It will make you flírt with others over the ph0ne, at the w0rkplace, in the neighb0urhood and s0cial media making it uncomfortable for your sp0use.

It can affect your désire for your sp0use.

Lúst dies when you st0p feeding it.

Check out lústful c0nversations, see people around you with respect, not séxual 0bjects.

5. UNMET S£XUAL EXP£CTATIONS

There is nothing as frústrating as being married but your s£xual needs are not being fully met.

Most likely they are not being fully met because you have not l0vingly communicated to your sp0use what you want, your favourite s£xual positions and your fàntasies.

But remember, before you expect your sp0use to meet your s£xual needs, meet his/her s£xual needs.

6. MEMORIES OF AN £X WHO USED TO BE GREAT IN B£D

Some people are fighting the mem0ries they had of their ex/exes in b£d.

As they have s£x with their sp0use, they have images of the éx in mind.

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Let go of the past.

See your sp0use for the uniqueness he/she is.

Start to praise your sp0use s£xually and your mind will register your spouse as the new definition of s£xy.

7. P0RN0GRAPHY

P0rn0graphy will d!stract you from cultivating íntímàcy with your sp0use.

It will make you ignore your sp0use without you knowing it is just to look at vide0s and píctures of nàked stràngers bángíng.

Address this by desiring the real thing, not illusions and p0rn stàrs. Train yourself to say no.

8. MÀSTÚRBÀTI0N

Màstúrbati0n will make your sp0use c0mpete with your fíngers.

Your fíngers will most likely wín because you kn0w h0w to pléáse y0urself but your marriàge will l0se.

Address this by tèaching your sp0use how you want him/her to plèàse you since you have alrèady leàrnt your b0dy.

9. A P£NIS THAT CANNOT SUSTAIN AN £R£CTION

Most men lose their èrècti0n due to panic or lack of c0ncentration because s£x starts in the mìnd.

Address this by calming down, relax, be in the m0ment, enjoy every sènsàtion.

10. AN 0VERTHINKING WIFE WHO STRUGGLES TO CLÏMÀX

Most wives who struggle to clìmàx is because they 0ver think. “Have the kids eaten? Is my váginá smeIIing? Is hè really enj0ying it?

Am I m0aning too l0ud? Am I t00 wèt? Have we paid rent? Did I remember to pay the chama?

Is the salon open tomorrow? Which weave should I put on next? I forgot to call Njambi”…

These are some of the thoughts running through her mind as he is pùmping. Lady, relax.

11. A P£NIS THAT EJÀCULÀTES TOO QUICKLY

If she makes you ejàculate that means shè is s0 sweet and that is a good thing but what she desires is that you stay hard longer.

Last by st0pping the pumping when you feel you are about to clìmàx, change p0sitions at that time so that you look cool while at it.

12. L0W SELF-ESTEEM

If you doubt your own s£xiness and performance then int!macy will súffer.

Confidence is crucial when it comes to all things s£x.

Embràce your b0dy, your túmmy, sàggy breàsts, strétch màrks, bàlding héad, your physique.

Take care of your b0dy, work out.

Flàunt to your sp0use what is good ab0ut you.

Praise each other’s l00ks and perf0rmance to boost confidence.

13. AFFAIRS

When an0ther is already servicing your b0dy, you will come home to a sp0use you are n0t interested in.

On top of that, you will be filled with guilt to the point that you struggle to connect with your sp0use; and if your sp0use suspects or knows, he/she will shut you out.

Just let the àffàir end.

14. COMPARISONS WITH OTHER COUPLES

When you hear or read the colourful s£x stories of other couples, of how the wife squ!rts, how the husband lasts for f0rty m!nutes, how the wife r!des like a pro, how the husband feàsts on her cl!t0ris till she cries; you might begin to question your own marriage and whether you two are happily married.

Each marriage is unique, make your own special memories

Author: Gunadiish Kwadzo Mensah